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The Snare of a Forbidden Romance

Posted by Petulia Lun on

Our Best Thought is a weekly devotional thoughtfully penned by leaders in DUMC arising from their daily devotions. The devotional’s title, “Our Best Thought” is taken from the hymn, “Be Thou My Vision” as a reference to God: “Thou my best thought, by day or by night.” Publishes on Sundays.


'Samson went down to Timnah and saw there a young Philistine woman. When he returned, he said to his father and mother, “I have seen a Philistine woman in Timnah; now get her for me as my wife.” His father and mother replied, “Isn’t there an acceptable woman among your relatives or among all our people? Must you go to the uncircumcised Philistines to get a wife?” But Samson said to his father, “Get her for me. She’s the right one for me.”

Judges 14:1-3 (NIV)


Samson is part of the fabric of God’s tapestry. He was an important example of unfulfilled potential. Although Samson did great things for God, we can only wonder what he might have done or been for God. But despite his sin God still moved behind the scenes and used Samson for good. Though God can make even the evil of man to serve His purposes, it never justifies the evil that man does.

  • Samson fell in love ‘at first sight’ with a Philistine woman, wanting to marry her because he saw things that pleased himself but not what would please God (v.3)
  • Demanding for the Philistine woman to become his wife showed Samson’s sinful disregard for his parents and God’s will (v.2)
  • His parents tried to dissuade him but he allowed to be swept off his feet by his passion and aim to fulfill his own desires


“Love at first sight” is a powerful feeling, but a dangerous one. We can fall in love with someone we have no business falling in love with which was the case with Samson. Falling in love at first sight is a wonderful feeling but it will not last in its original form forever. We are attracted to the ‘feeling’ of love rather than focus on the person whom we do not know at first sight.

Bound by romantic feelings and the desires of the flesh, there are many people who still demand from God a mate outside of God’s will.

The command to the Israelites to not intermarry with the pagan nations around them applies to Christians today in that a Christian must not marry someone who is not a Christian, joining themselves together with an unbeliever (2 Corinthians 6:14).

'Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? '

This isn’t because those who are not Christians are not lovable – they are sometimes more lovable than believers! It is not because they aren’t good enough, or unworthy of our love, or that they are somehow inherently incapable of being a good marriage partner. It is simply because to be a Christian means Jesus Christ is the most important thing in your life; and when a Christian and a non-Christian get together, you have two people who disagree on the most important things in life.


Father God, I pray for our generation of believers to understand your heart for them to choose a mate who pleases you will, in turn, also please them because you are a God of providence. Lord, may your grace and mercy be upon those who are still single or have been divorced, and are looking for a mate, may your sovereign hand be upon them to lead them to someone whom they can unite with for life and together they can be a blessing in your Kingdom.

In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Petulia Lun is Head of Ministry of Floodgates. Read the current issue here and past issues of Floodgates here.

Our Best Thought is a weekly devotional that follows DUMC's Bible Reading Plan. Posts on Sundays.